Does age matter in relationships ?

Why is age such a factor in relationships?
When does younger than me become too young for me? And why is an age gap such a difficult thing to bridge?

There are many things someone can do to try to give themselves a better chance of successfully dating, but what if it was all in vain, as apparently, your too young from day one? And why is it ok for older men to be with younger women, yet older women with younger men is frowned upon socially?

Statistics indicate us that older- men / younger –woman couple will continue to become more and more prevalent – in part, because men are living longer than ever before and looking and acting more younger than ever before, whereas woman and waiting longer to marry, and because divorces from first ( and second) marriages’ continue to rise.

Age is a problem for almost all people. I'm sure at some point everyone has heard objections from friends and family like "You cant be with him, he's far too old for you". Usually an age gap is very popular reason for break ups. You have idea WHY ?
What will bring relationship with someone, who is too old, or instead too young for you ? In our society its very traditional for an older man to be with the younger woman. You have idea why ?

Did you know : According to a study of 50,000 women daters over 30, conducted by an online dating site in 2007, more than one-third of the subjects showed interest in men at least 5 years younger. And in 2003, an AARP survey revealed 34 percent of 3,500 women (between ages 40 and 69) dated men who are 10 or more years younger than themselves.

This trend appears to be shocking to some people, but I don't find it so unusual.

We ( Women ) have a problem being judged socially. We worry about nearest and dearest opinion. We are afraid of being embarrassed by a less experienced or less mature guy.

I have recently become involved with a man, almost 10 years older than me. Age gap is not problem for us. We have a lot of fun, we talk, we go places, we enjoy each others, we share a lot of interests. Of course on beginning our relation was a “ small secret” , however with time , when our love grown up, we not hide feeling anymore. Age gap was not anymore problem for us. Opinion of our nearest and dearest friends was not important anymore .

“ The media focuses on the age difference, but what really makes or breaks the relationship is how well the couple can form a partnership that works”

There appears to be a trend of older women dating younger men, notably illustrated by celebrity couples including Demi Moore and Aston Kutcher, Madonna and Jesus, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry, and the most recent fling between 48-year-old Linda Hogan and 19-year-old Charlie Hill
But also a lot of live in relation with younger woman as : Woody Allen and Soon Yi, Micheal Duglas and Catherina Zeta Johnes, and relation between 85 – year old Andrzej Łapicki with 25-year old Kamila Mścichowska


Love not counting age gap :











Please take the look forum opinion :

“I am 20 years old and I fell in love with a person sixteen years older than me. When I first met him I was 17 years old, but he grew on me. He's very different in the "worldly sense" he has no post secondary schooling, he works for his family, but the one thing that sets him aside is that he is the father figure I always wanted to have. He treats me like a princess. I never felt that way before and no matter how many times my mother and my father (who made a fuss out of a droplet of water and who has never been there for me) tell me, he has always been a supportive individual in my life. There are times where I feel as if the world has a dead end. I feel pressured by my family's expectations since I am an only child, and am the only person in my family going to college, but I still haven't forgotten my roots. He is from my family's country and I also feel more mature since my mother is in his mother's generation. I was born to a very antiquated family. I feel completely comfortable with him. He likes the same music I like, we enjoy the same recreational activities and he respects me for who I am. Now, it is difficult to tell your same peered friends that go to college that one is attracted to an older man because all they do is say "eww your nasty", but no matter what even if you are in this situation all your looking for is comprehension. They are committed, and talk to you any time. Aside from the fact that he is very distant from me, I can call him in the wee hours and he still listens to what I have to say. That is the kind of counseling I missed from my own father and unfortunately I have found it in him, and my father cries about it. “

“I started dating my gorgeous but “forbidden” love when I was 20 and he was 49. Coming from a very conservative family I don’t how to bring myself and tell my parents that I’m dating a man who’s older than my father (not by much, but still). They would right away jump to the conclusion that he’s just using me for my looks and my body. We keep our love a secret. In public sometimes I can’t even hold his hand and it kills me. It’s a price that I pay for being such a coward and not being able to be strong enough and stand up for what is most important to me. He is the most beautiful, generous, kind being that I know and he loves me endlessly. Needless to say that money or anything else has nothing to do with our relationship. He says that he has never been happier and that is most important for me. Not too long ago we went through a difficult time together (still recovering from it) and he told me that if it wasn’t for me he would cry every night. The more I get to know him, the more I love him, but it’s so hard. He tells me that I will need to move on and find someone my age, but I can’t even think about being with another man. He’s in a good health, but of course he’s not a teenage boy (although he acts like one most of the time :P); he worries about things like maybe in the future he may not be able satisfy me sexually or he doesn’t want to be a burden. Doesn't he realize how much I care for him and that I want to be with him and for him?
Acceptance is a big thing. Acceptance from him, acceptance for myself (I want kids in future, but it would be impossible if I were to stay with him), acceptance from my parents. How does one find peace of mind? How can I learn to just accept?
I'm very lucky, because I look around and see so many unhappy couples, failed marriages, singles desperate to find love, and we are just grateful for every moment that we share together. I bring happiness into his life and he fills mine with so much love.”

“I am a 26 year old man and my woman is 58 year old. She is a retired government employee. I saw her in a bus stop. she was old but very attractive. When I went out of the bus I saw her coming out of the bus. I just asked her name and devoloped a relationship. She was married and her husband died two years back. she has a daughter and she too married and has a child. Her daughter is staying with her and her son is law is working aboard. When I am in her company I feel secured and feel that I am in the safest place.”

“I am 21 years younger than my wife and I am glad to see an article recognizing this kind of relationship. Being married to an older woman is adventurous even without leaving the house. One thing I haven't heard or seen mentioned about this kind of relationship is the thrill of rebelliousness against what society expects. There are many ways to be happy and this is our way. Keep in mind, unlike the couples described in some other letters here, this is a marriage, not a fling. It's taken very seriously. There are many reasons I prefer a older woman to be my wife. She has seen life and doesn't take it for granted. She is mature and that includes sexually. I don't have to play games that younger women seem to thrive upon. My wife is my best friend and I love knowing she needs me. She has an attitude toward life that encourages me. I think that my age brings a vitality to her that a man her age or older could not give her. Most men want beauty. I wanted substance in that beauty and that's what I have.”

“I am in love with a woman who's 22 y/o older than me, she means the world to me and i can't imagine my life without her in it, we've been together for a 18 months now. We had that age problem in the beginning but now we are totally happy and absolutely mad in love. When you find the right woman, you love her for who she's and nothing else. Age gap doesn't really matter.”

Age is not something that can be changed, or caught up. So what can be changed? Opinions and beliefs. I would like to know Your opinion .. Is it OK to have a partner who is much older or younger than You ? Can older woman/younger man relationships last ? Why cant a man and a woman who love each other be together because of what others may think?! Let’s find together a way around it.